In speaking about wisdom, for instance, James states wisdom produces a good life with works done "with gentleness born of wisdom" (James 3.13). This is the wisdom that comes from above--it is "Pure, then peacable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without an trace of partiality or hypocrisy" (3.17). No surprise here, except for the religious blinded by their own principles: James in the tradition of the prophets and Jesus, believes that wisdom has everything to with how treat others.
Then James goes on the offensive by asking, What about those conflicts among you, where do they come from? His answer is not easy to swallow. James does not go into a lengthy sociological or psychological explanation. Instead he says, they come from "your cravings that are at war within you." The problem is . . . say it with me . . . malformed desires. We want what we cannot have. We ask with the wrong motives. We are friends with the world. "Adulterers!" James thunders, "Do you not know that friendship with world is enmity toward god. Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God" (vs. 4). As I've said before, it's what we love more than God that makes us so violent. It's what we place above God that needs to be defended and fought over--our pride, our security, our success, etc. etc. So you see it's not that we want a conflict, but it's what we want that makes a conflict inevitable.
Ouch! We're in some hot water today. Where do we turn now?
The answer is simple, at least according to James: Get right with God. He states, "Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded."
Now we come full circle. If we respond to God by drawing near to him, we will discover the wisdom that produces peace and gentleness and justice, the wisdom that comes from above. We will have new set of desires. Our hearts will be directed toward God and not toward the things that make fights inevitable.
Peace!